Counseling questions, answered
How counseling works, what to expect in sessions, the approaches we use, what LMFTs are trained to do, family systems, confidentiality and how to start.
Updated November 3, 2026

The short version
- Counseling is collaborative. You and your therapist set goals and adjust them together.
- You do not need a diagnosis to start. Some insurance plans require one for reimbursement.
- Our providers are Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists with training in relationships and family systems.
- We integrate approaches such as CBT, solution-focused therapy, narrative therapy, EFT, play therapy and trauma-informed care.
- Most major insurance is accepted for counseling. Telehealth is available anywhere in Texas.
Counseling is a conversation with a purpose. It is a place to slow down, tell the truth about what is happening, and work with someone trained to help you understand it and change what you want to change.
This page explains how counseling works at Fair Winds, the approaches our providers use, what an LMFT is trained to do, and what family systems means. It is general information, not a diagnosis or medical advice. If you want to talk through your situation, call us at 817-735-4165 or request an appointment.
How counseling works
Most people start with a call or a request through our secure portal. We ask what you are looking for, match you with a provider and schedule a first session. In that session, your therapist explains confidentiality and consent, hears what brings you in, gathers relevant history and begins setting goals with you.
From there, sessions usually happen weekly or every other week. You and your therapist review what is working, adjust the plan and decide together when to space sessions out or finish. Counseling is not something done to you; it is a collaboration.
Approaches we use
Our providers are trained in several evidence-based and relationally grounded approaches. We choose based on the person, the concern and what you want from counseling, not a single fixed formula.
- Family systems therapy looks at relationships, patterns, roles and context.
- Cognitive behavioral therapy works with the links between thoughts, feelings and behaviors.
- Solution-focused therapy builds on goals, strengths and small next steps.
- Narrative therapy separates the person from the problem and explores preferred stories.
- Emotionally focused therapy uses attachment and emotion to help couples change repeating cycles.
- Play therapy gives children a developmentally natural way to communicate and practice skills.
- Trauma-informed care prioritizes safety, choice, collaboration and pacing.
What LMFTs do differently
All licensed therapists can provide counseling. LMFTs have specific graduate training in marriage and family therapy and supervised clinical experience with relationships and family systems. In Texas, that includes 3,000 hours of supervised clinical practice, substantial couples and family work and 200 hours of supervision before independent licensure, under current board rules.
That training shapes how an LMFT listens. They are likely to ask not only what is happening inside you, but also what is happening between you and the people around you: roles, communication, family history, culture, community and the patterns that repeat. They are not better than other providers; they bring a particular lens that fits many people and concerns.
What family systems is
Family systems therapy sees a person as part of a larger relational system. A symptom may belong to one person, but it can be maintained or shaped by patterns among people: who talks to whom, who holds worry, who avoids conflict, what roles are assigned, what is allowed to be said and what is not.
The goal is not to blame a family. It is to understand the system, name patterns without turning anyone into the problem, and find new ways to communicate, set boundaries and support one another. Family systems work can involve an individual, a couple, a parent and child, or a whole family.
Where family systems came from
Family systems therapy grew out of general systems theory and cybernetics in the mid-20th century, along with Gregory Bateson’s research on communication. Early models include Salvador Minuchin’s structural family therapy, Murray Bowen’s intergenerational approach, Jay Haley’s strategic therapy and Virginia Satir’s experiential work. The field has continued to develop and now includes many schools and integrative approaches.
What is required to start
You do not need a diagnosis to begin counseling. You will complete intake paperwork and consent, and your therapist will explain confidentiality and its limits. Some insurance plans require a diagnosis for reimbursement; we will discuss that before we begin. For telehealth, you must be physically in Texas at the time of the session. Counseling is not a crisis service; call 988 or 911 if you are in immediate danger.
How to start
Call us at 817-735-4165 and press 1, or request an appointment through our secure patient portal. If you are not sure which provider or approach fits, tell us what you are noticing and we will help.
Questions and answers
Getting started
How do I know if I need counseling?
You do not need a crisis or a diagnosis to benefit. Counseling can help with anxiety, depression, grief, stress, relationships, parenting, a big change or the feeling that something is off. If something is getting in the way of your daily life, it is worth a conversation.
What happens in the first session?
We complete the necessary paperwork and talk about what brings you in. Your therapist will ask about your history, what you want to change and what support looks like for you. You do not have to tell your whole story at once; the first session is also a chance to ask questions and see whether the fit feels right.
Do I need a diagnosis to start counseling?
No. You can start with a concern, a transition or a relationship issue. Some insurance plans require a diagnosis for reimbursement, and we will discuss that with you before we begin. Self-pay is also an option.
How long does counseling take?
It varies. Some people feel helped in 8 to 12 sessions; others need longer-term work. We review goals and progress together, and you can stop or adjust at any time.
How often will we meet?
Most people meet weekly or every other week at first, then space sessions out as things improve. The schedule is agreed with your therapist and can change as your needs change.
Is counseling confidential?
Yes, with legal and ethical exceptions. We may need to act when there is a risk of serious harm, suspected abuse or neglect, a court order or another situation required by law. Your therapist will explain confidentiality and its limits before you begin. Our Notice of Privacy Practices has more detail.
Do you offer telehealth?
Yes. Our board-certified telemental health providers offer secure video counseling anywhere in Texas. You must be physically in Texas at the time of the session. Telehealth is not a crisis service.
Do you take insurance?
We accept most major insurance plans for counseling. Coverage, copays and authorization requirements vary by plan, so please call us to confirm your benefits. We can also discuss self-pay.
What if I don't know what to talk about?
That is common. You do not need a prepared speech. Your therapist will help you start, follow what matters and slow down when needed. Silence and uncertainty are welcome parts of the process.
Can I switch therapists if it is not a fit?
Yes. Fit matters. If the relationship or approach is not working, tell us and we will help you think through options, including a different provider when one is available. You are not obligated to stay with a therapist who is not the right match.
What if I am in crisis?
Call or text 988 for the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, or call 911 in an emergency. Our office and website are not crisis services.
Approaches
What approaches do you use?
Our providers draw from several approaches and match them to the person and the concern. These include family systems therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, solution-focused therapy, narrative therapy, emotionally focused therapy, play therapy and trauma-informed care. We do not force one model onto everyone.
What is cognitive behavioral therapy?
CBT looks at how thoughts, feelings and behaviors affect one another. It teaches practical skills and is often structured and goal-focused. It has strong evidence for anxiety, depression, stress and many other concerns.
What is solution-focused therapy?
Solution-focused therapy focuses on goals, strengths, exceptions to the problem and small next steps. It is often brief and practical. It does not ignore pain; it asks what is already working and what would be different if things improved.
What is narrative therapy?
Narrative therapy separates the person from the problem and explores the stories people tell about themselves. It can help a person notice preferred values, strengths and possibilities that the problem has crowded out.
What is emotionally focused therapy?
EFT is an attachment-based approach often used with couples. It helps partners notice repeating cycles, access the emotions underneath the conflict and build a safer connection. It can also inform individual work.
What is play therapy?
Play therapy uses play as a child's natural way to communicate. A trained therapist may use toys, art, games and structured activities to help a child express feelings, practice skills and make sense of experiences. Parent involvement is often part of the work.
What is trauma-informed care?
Trauma-informed care emphasizes safety, choice, collaboration, trustworthiness and empowerment. It does not require you to retell a trauma before you are ready. The pace and goals are set with you, and your sense of control matters.
Do you integrate faith and spirituality?
Yes, when you ask for it. Our providers are glad to welcome faith and spirituality into the conversation, and they never impose it. People of every background receive the same respect and welcome.
Do you offer Christian counseling?
Yes, if that is what you want. Providers can integrate Christian faith and spiritual perspectives when a client requests it. It is always your choice, and it is never required.
Do you prescribe medication?
No. Our providers are therapists and assessment specialists, not prescribers. We can coordinate with your physician or psychiatrist and help you think through what to ask. Medication decisions belong with a qualified prescriber.
LMFTs and credentials
What is an LMFT?
An LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. LMFTs have graduate training in marriage and family therapy, supervised clinical experience and a license from the state. Their training emphasizes relationships, family systems and the context around a person.
What training does an LMFT have?
Texas LMFTs complete a graduate degree, specific marriage and family therapy coursework and supervised clinical experience. Under current Texas rules, that includes 3,000 hours of supervised clinical practice, substantial couples and family work and 200 hours of supervision before independent licensure. Requirements can change; licenses can be verified with the Texas Behavioral Health Executive Council.
How are LMFTs different from other therapists?
All licensed therapists can provide counseling. LMFTs have specific graduate and supervised training in marriage and family therapy, and they are taught to see problems in relational context: couples, families, roles, communication, culture and intergenerational patterns. They are not better than psychologists, professional counselors or social workers; the right fit depends on the person and the concern.
What is a BC-TMH?
BC-TMH stands for Board Certified-TeleMental Health. It is a credential for providers who have additional training and meet standards for delivering secure video care. Not every therapist has it, and it is one way to evaluate telehealth experience.
Are your providers licensed in Texas?
Yes. Our providers are Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists regulated by the Texas Behavioral Health Executive Council. You can verify a license through the BHEC license search.
What if I live outside Texas?
Because licensure is state-based, we can see you by telehealth only when you are physically in Texas at the time of the session. We see clients in person at our Fort Worth office. If you are outside Texas, we can help you think about finding a provider licensed in your state.
What is the difference between counseling, therapy and psychotherapy?
The terms are often used interchangeably. Counseling sometimes suggests shorter, goal-focused work, while psychotherapy sometimes suggests longer or deeper work, but the words do not have a fixed legal meaning in everyday use. Use whichever feels comfortable; what matters is the fit and the work.
Family systems
What is family systems therapy?
Family systems therapy sees people as part of interconnected relationships. It looks at patterns, roles, communication, boundaries and intergenerational history, and it assumes that change in one part of the system affects the others. It can be used with individuals, couples or whole families.
Where did family systems therapy come from?
Family systems therapy grew out of general systems theory and cybernetics in the mid-20th century, along with Gregory Bateson's communication research. Early models include Salvador Minuchin's structural family therapy, Murray Bowen's intergenerational approach, Jay Haley's strategic therapy and Virginia Satir's experiential work. The field has continued to evolve.
Does family systems therapy blame the family?
No. A systems lens is not about blame. It looks at how patterns developed, what keeps them going and what each person needs. Responsibility can be named without turning one person into the problem. The goal is understanding and change, not assigning fault.
Who attends family systems sessions?
It depends on the concern. Sessions may include an individual, a couple, a parent and child, or the whole family. Even individual counseling can use a systems lens by looking at relationships, roles and context.
Practical details
How much does counseling cost?
Cost depends on your insurance, copay or self-pay arrangement. Call us and we will explain the current rates, verify benefits when possible and answer questions before you schedule.
What is your cancellation policy?
Please give at least two business days' notice to cancel or reschedule. For a Monday appointment, that means letting us know by the same time on the Thursday before. Late cancellations and missed appointments may be charged a fee.
How do I start?
Call us at 817-735-4165 and press 1, or request an appointment through our secure patient portal. Tell us what you are looking for and we will help match you with a provider and a next step.